Ways to WISDOM



Confuscius said

“By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.”

– Confucius

…the truth is wisdom is earned, usually the hard way.

Reflection – we can get on the hamster wheel and turn and turn over our past finding every lesson within our history. Reflection can be harder than we need it to be or we can make it easier on our peace of mind by being kind to ourselves. Reflection needs to be honest – that’s why it is noble and that can be difficult. It also needs to be done like climbing stairs, one at a time or by seeking patterns in our past, which soon we see as patterns in our own thinking and behaviours. Climb the stairs but don’t fall back down them.

Imitation – we can connect with people who have positive traits we admire. They are reflectors of our own potential to become. It is easier to ‘act as if’ until it becomes part of who we are. We all need role models and we can in turn be a role model.

Experience – Experiential learning is the active process of learning through experience, it is not a passive action.

David A Kolb (Social Psychologist) described this type of learning as

“Experiential learning is the process of learning through experience. Knowledge results from the combination of grasping experience and transforming it.”

– David A. Kolb

How we do this is by using 4 key learning stages.

1. Concrete Experience – a new experience or situation is faced, or an existing experience faced again.

2. Reflective Observation  – how we reflect and observe upon the experience and our understanding of it.

3. Abstract Conceptualization – through reflection and understanding of the experience we modify our learning and key understanding of it accordingly.

4. Active Experimentation – we test out our new learning and understanding and hopefully grow in wisdom.

Each of the 4 stages must be completed for active experiential learning to happen, when we miss a stage out we can get stuck, repeat bad experiences and not learn what WISDOM we need to move forward.

Life is a school and we are always being tested. It is up to us how hard we study.

© evie angel 2016

I hope this blog post will be helpful to you

Keep shining

evie x
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About evolutionofevie

Qualified Counsellor, Survivor of Domestic Abuse, Coffee Shop Muse, Life Storyteller, Empowerment Facilitator and a believer in Kindness.
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